Category Archives: Mother’s Day
Yesterday, we celebrated Mom. Some people did it with picnics and cookouts. They laughed and hugged their mom. Others did it with tears, as they grieved a mom who is no longer there. Still others faced painful memories of a mother who hurt them in a variety of ways. What does Mother’s Day mean to you?
What is a Mom?
What did your mom teach you about being a mother? Did you learn what to do, or what not to do? What did you learn about God, love, sacrifice, cooking, organization, how to handle money, how to balance family and work, grief, making choices, etc., from your mom? If you’re a man, what did she teach you about choosing a wife who would be the mother of your children?
What memories did she create in your family? What was unique about her that made you want to be a better person?
The Practical Side of a Mom
Moms model so many things as we grow up. Did she show you how to sew, start a business, create a budget, play music, speak in public, serve in the background, etc.? How did she model the fruits of the Spirit? Did you see her on her knees, praying for you? Did you watch her make time with God a priority?
How did she create a loving home? How did she love your dad? How did she show you that she loved you? How did she punish you? How did she defend you when someone wronged you? How did she show you to face the world?
Our moms influence our lives in so many ways. Use the insights that Mother’s Day stirred up and write about it.
© Deborah Christensen
I am blessed to have my parents still with me. They are in their 80s and relatively healthy. But, they are slowing down. As their children, my sister and I help them with whatever they need. Other family members help, as well. A few weeks ago, their grandsons removed old railroad ties and pulled weeds from their back yard.
A couple of years ago, my mom was in the hospital. My dad walks with a cane and my mom occasionally needs a walker. Their physical limitations are growing but manageable. My mom still does laundry in their basement, refusing to allow us to help her with the stairs. They drive. And, they take care of my aunt, who lives in a nursing home. They want their independence.
How do you know when it’s time to step in? How do you help parents know when it’s time to stop driving, to move to an assisted-care facility or to get them in-home care? What are the healthcare options for aging parents? What do you do when you see signs of dementia? How do you help them without treating them like children?
We will encounter aging issues with our parents. How can we, as writers, help our readers know where to look for answers?
Share your own story. What worked for you? What didn’t work? What do you wish you had done differently?
Write a how-to piece. This will mean research. Talk to experts in the field and share their insights. Offer practical tips that your readers can use. Help them find the right government agencies, choose the right nursing home, find the best living situation that works best for their family.
Write a devotion. Use verses that talk about honoring parents and defending the defenseless. Help your readers understand that God commands us to care for our parents, forgive them for their mistakes and serve them until He calls them home.
Use fiction or poetry to share your insights. This is an indirect way to guide your readers as they deal with these issues.
Consider doing a tie-in to Mother’s Day. How has the meaning of Mother’s Day changed, now that your parents are aging? What are special ways to honor your aging mom?
As people live longer, more of us need direction to help our parents navigate the later years. Our parents took care of us. Now, it’s our turn. And, as writers, we can walk beside our readers because they’re navigating new territory, too.
© Deborah Christensen
Summer is filled with activities that we don’t do during other times of the year: trips to the beach, vacations, outdoor activities, new and exciting adventures. How do you keep thinking as a writer while you’re engaging in summer fun? How do you glean writing ideas from your summer activities?
Please comment. You might inspire someone else.
Personal Experience Pieces
How did you celebrate Mother’s Day? Did your children do something special for you? Did you do something special with your mom? How can you share these things with your readers?
Are you a new mom? How does that change the way you view Mother’s Day? Are you a grandma? How does that make Mother’s Day unique for you? If your mom is no longer with you, how does that change Mother’s Day for you?
Take all the emotions from Mother’s Day and use them in your writing. Tell stories. Offer a spiritual application.
What memories did you create on Mother’s Day? What about traditions? How do you make it a unique experience for the mothers in your family?
What did you learn about being a mom from your own mother? What did she do right? What mistakes did she make?
How did you tell your mom you were pregnant? How did you include her in your pregnancy? How did you help your own children during their pregnancies? How did you know when to step back and allow them to learn on their own?
How do your children show you love throughout the year? How do you show your own mother love during the year?
If your mom is no longer with you, how do you cope with her loss? How did you learn to live with that loss? How do you honor her life?
Your experiences will help other mothers and children.
Other Writing Avenues
Fiction is always a good way to work through or honor your relationship with your mom. How can you use your experiences in fiction? How can you use your experiences in a children’s story?
Poetry, too, offers an outlet to expressing the mother/child relationship. How does your relationship with your mom inspire your poetry? What about your relationship with your children?
Our relationship with our moms can be complicated. But, it also offers blossoms of writing ideas—both beautiful and not-so beautiful—that we can gather into a multi-faceted writing bouquet.
© Deborah Christensen