Plowing Together: The Difficult Talk — Please Comment

How do you talk to your aging parents about moving to an assisted-care facility or nursing home? How do you talk to them about giving up their lifelong home?

How would you write about it? What ideas can you share in an article or book? Your comments may inspire another writer.


Posted on May 9, 2017, in aging, aging parents, family relationships, inspiration, nonfiction, poetry, seniors, writer's life, writing, writing ideas, writing prompt and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. That’s what I thought.
    And from a fictional perspective, it would make an interesting story line…

  2. After the events of the past year with my mother, my experience has been difficult…Her hospitalization last year for congestive heart failure spiraled into a misguided physician ‘s attempt to classify her as having Alzheimer’s or dementia. A nurse case manager at the hospital tryed to get her shoved into long term care when we didn’t have a definitive diagnosis; I battled for and got a consult to a neurology specialist, who sided with me after reviewing her MRI and stating she did NOT have the pathology that indicated an organic brain cause for her issues. His treatment after doing lab work resulted in an improvement in her mental state, but there have been other issues since then. Mom has enough spark to refuse to sign any kind of DPOA papers (“that means they’ll unplug me and not take care of me”), let alone entertain going into assisted living. If I were not a nurse, there would have been much more serious consequences…but since we located a pill dispenser that alarms to remind her to take her pills, which I fill every 7-10 days, she has been able to maintain her home independently. (She has a severe short term memory problem, and has not had a stroke…it was encephalopathy from a heart rhythm medication that interacted badly with her thyroid medicine.)
    The kicker? If I were to write anything in a public forum, it would have to be under a pen name and certain identifying characteristics would have to be changed…because she thinks her friends treated her differently because of things that were posted on Facebook…which is not the case. She is not the same person she was before all this happened.
    Yep. You found a button topic for me right now…

    • Oh, wow, Shauna. That’s quite a story. It focuses on the need to get the real answers instead of being content with the “simple” answers. I would encourage you to write about it with a pen name. You definitely want to protect her privacy.

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